However, there are many outside influences that affect our parenting styles and impact our decisions as well, in regards to how we raise our children.  These may include neighbors, friends, teachers, coaches and caregivers, in addition to the media.

At some point you’ll be confronted with issues relating to your child being exposed to people or situations that you disapprove of and feel are inappropriate.  These instances become more common as they grow older.  It’s challenging to be “the only one” who tells their child that they can’t participate in an activity, wear makeup, attend a party, go to a movie or play a video game.  Inevitably there’s a social price to pay for you as well as child for making these “unpopular” choices so be sensitive to their feelings as they’re “left out” yet again.
           
Parents need to establish and embrace their values and create an open, honest line of communication with their children and the adults who are responsible for their supervision and care.  Be proactive, make a phone call or schedule a meeting in person and make your expectations clear so that you can prevent some of these situations from occurring in the first place or again in the future.  It can be uncomfortable and awkward to disagree with another parent or adult who spends time with your child, especially when it’s a family member, teacher or close friend.  However, if you’re respectful, direct and assertive when you express your feelings and concerns about a situation, the experience can be quite rewarding. You need to be your child’s advocate and teach them how to be courageous and stand up for themselves when they’re in a situation with their peers or anyone else they encounter.  We want our kids to have self respect, self-assurance and self-esteem so lead by example and encourage them to articulate their feelings and communicate readily.   

Realistically, there are other parents or who may not agree, argue, take the matter personally and become defensive. But you should avoid confrontation. Stay calm, take some deep breaths and remain true to your convictions and what’s best for your family.  This preventative measure will become easier with time and practice. But don’t have conversations regarding the children in their presence. Choose a time that’s convenient for everyone and consider rehearsing the dialogue in preparation.  Empower yourself and your children through positive listening and communication.