October/November 2009
The Growing Years
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Sexting Dangers and GenM
By Elizabeth Carll, Ph.D.

Today’s teens and preteens, known as GenM (the multitasking generation), are often inseparable from their cell phones, PDAs and computers. It isn’t unusual for teens to be doing homework and simultaneously texting on cell phones or sending e-mails, with some teens sending more that 1,000 text messages each day.

It’s common for teens to text images and photos or post them on social networking sites such as MySpace and FaceBook.

It can be innocent. But alarmingly, it has become common for them to send sexual texts, called sexting, or to send nude photos of themselves and others via cell phones, PDAs or e-mails. There are potential psychological, social and legal consequences that teens don’t often grasp in their quest to be connected to their peers.

Sexually explicit and nude photos sent to a close friend can unexpectedly be shared with others who then continue the viral distribution.  What started out as joke or having some fun can quickly change to humiliation and embarrassment as the images can be seen by anyone.  Ex-friends and enemies may send the embarrassing photos as revenge and cyber bullying is a common phenomenon.

Images and e-communication may live on the Internet forever.  Attempting to remove this embarrassing information may be difficult, if not impossible, resulting in dire consequences such as jeopardizing future jobs and acceptance to college as any employer, college admissions officer can easily find this information.  In fact, employers often do Internet searches as part of a background check.  Sexually explicit photos may also attract predators and sex offenders.

In addition, sending nude and sexually explicit photos of minors is considered child pornography, which is a felony in many states. In New York, sending nude photos can result in felony charges for creating, possessing or distributing child pornography.

Elizabeth Carll, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and author in private practice in Huntington and Centerport.

Tips for Parents

  • At an opportune time, bring up the subject of sexting and what he knows about it. Discuss the consequences explaining that while some people may see it as fun, they may not think of the long-term consequences.
  • Research news articles about sexting and discuss them with her. Ask her what she thinks of what has been reported and the consequences. 
  • Talk about how some teens have been hurt by sexting.
  • If he receives a nude photo, it shouldn’t be sent to anyone else. If you learn your child’s sending these types of photos, have a calm discussion about why he’s not permitted to do this and discuss the potential consequences. Depending on the situation, it may be helpful to consult an attorney as how to proceed, since sexting is a felony.

Keep the lines of communication open so that your preteen or teen can come to you when they receive a sexually explicit photo and you can both discuss what should be done.



 


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